3 reasons people feel ‘lost’ in their lives

It happens. Most people can feel ‘lost’, ‘incomplete’ and ‘uncertain’ about their lives. It can happen anytime, it can be triggered anytime and it may be called a ‘midlife crisis’! Discontent, dissatisfaction and resentment of your ways of life and the routine of it is very common and I believe it comes from not understanding your “WHY”, “WHAT” and “HOW” that leads you to this discontented path. What we must realise is that we should anticipate this occurrence and plan for it should you ever experience it.

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unhappy, lost, discontent, ‘flat’, dissatisfaction, confusion and resentment
I recently felt ‘lost’. I was burnt out. I was working and am still working 19 hour days because I was determined to destroy my goals and plans. But I felt flat, no sense of joy and although I knew my responsibilities and roles in my hectic lifestyle, I refused to bow down to this feeling. It wasn’t easy. I was unproductive. Lazy and whingy and sulky. I hated it. But I knew it was a problem and I knew from my principles that it was a dark stormy phase I had to go through to get to sunnier days!

“…anticipate this occurrence and plan for it should you ever experience it.”

Unfortunately as you’re mind is surrounded by this negative thoughts and you can make this problem grow bigger if you keep holding yourself in that circumstance. It adds fuel to the fire. If you think good and positive thoughts then your day should be a lot more brighter.

I don’t blame you for feeling lost. It’s okay. It happens. What I’m more concerned about it how you’re gonna get back into the hustle and grind and how long would it take? Before we even do that, you must audit yourself and realise that you are plagued with at least three reasons.

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losing track of your journey is bad. But it can happen. It will be okay
These three common reasons for feeling lost include:

1/ excessive stress – over thinking, overworking – no time for stress relief..

If you absolutely cannot find time to understand yourself, your wants and needs then you’re in a lot of trouble! Treat your mental state like body building. Every exercise and workout that you do causes stress on the muscular fibres of your body parts and therefore it is important to have rest days or breaks from training. By resting your muscle fibres are given the chance to repair itself and come back stronger, the same goes for your mental state. If you’re experiencing excessive stress, take a step back, enjoy a break and regather your thoughts because continued mental strain will lead to ‘injury’.

2/  feeling lost – purpose

We all grind out a day, but are you happy with your doing? Are you feeling fulfilled”? It’s so important to discover YOUR WHY?! It all comes down to conditioning. When you start a new project or start a new job, I assume you’re very excited and driven. But as time goes on, we become more stressed, exposed to naysayers, whingers and complainers and then we LOSE SIGHT of THE WHY. Constantly reviewing your WHY really does help. But hey, you’re too busy to do that right?!!!!!

3/    no motivation – no goal

No matter how crazy your lifestyle, you must hang on for dear life – your purpose! To really sustain the WHY, we must set chunked goals and due dates. Realising your why is great but now it’s time to act. If you have no motivation or direction due to lack of goal setting then you will compact and consolidate that dissatisfaction and resentment to your life. That won’t get you nowhere.

The question now is how do you dig yourself out?!! I made a YouTube that will help you get over this stage of your life. Have a look:

Dominate your mental state

G

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This is one of my weaknesses

Its great to be seen as a workhorse or a machine, well that’s what my friends and family say. However, I too am human and I still struggle with poor productivity some days. I hate being unproductive. I hate wasting time. But when things get overwhelming despite my planning and anticipating of each day’s goals and events I get frustrated and feel I didn’t achieve my goals. 
Take today for example. I started my day early morning, organised a few social media posts and words of wisdom, I consulted with 7 clients, wrote 2 articles, met with 2 major referrers, filmed an instructing video and came home for a 45 minute workout in the backyard. I don’t state all to brag or shit like that, its to show you that despite my efforts to destroy my daily tasks, I still am left with 7 more, mostly consisting with my new project completion called “The Unplugged” which I still have some writing and recording of content. As well as that, my work as a Podiatrist also requires some attention too, especially regarding maintaining referrer and client relationships.

Right now, I’m writing this with as much focus and intent as I can, cause I do not want to miss dinner with my family. Its not fair that I work work work and neglect my wife and daughter. They are what drive me to work. As well as that, I need to go to bed by midnight so I can wake up at 5am for a 30 minute calisthenics session then content creation before I have to get ready to go to the office. So as it stands now, I’ve got 3 hours to edit content and publish my Podiatry video and then write approximately 1-2 hours worth of content for my “The Unplugged” project.

The great part of this post is that I’ve announced my evening hustle and YOU my precious readers will hold me accountable. My objectives before midnight (its now 8:15pm):

  • Dinner and quality time with family
  • Finish watchGrant blog post
  • Edit and publish Podiatry instructional video
  • Finish Module 1 & 2 of “The Unplugged”
  • Organise content for tomorrow
  • Read 2 chapters of Grant Cardone’s “If you’re not first, you’re last”

COME ON – GRIND GRIND GRIND!!!!!!!!
DOMINATE & DESTROY MY TASKS.